There’s a really lame saying about love. Set someone free, and if they are truly yours they will come back to you. * heart eyes, flutter flutter * Personally, I don’t recommend breaking up with anybody to find out if they’re really yours. To each their own though. Lemme know how that goes for ya.
But it snuck into my mind tonight. Because I have this tendency to throw myself haphazardly into things at mach speed the second I get the “this is right” feeling. I mean I’m an intuitive (if you're into MB), so this is how I make decisions, and typically I’m right, but I’m also an intuitive that lacks patience. And sometimes even when we know something is right, it’s still going to take time to grow and evolve into what we know it has the potential to become.
The real issue bubbles up, when forget that sage wisdom about letting life rise up to meet us, and instead, shackle ourselves to one singular answer. Blinders pop up to the sides and forget about serendipity - THIS is your solution and it is going to work out NOW. Could be a career. A person. Whatever. Life could knock you square between the eyes with a sign that says GO THE OTHER WAY, and you'd still clamor after this thing. And here's the deal, it really could be a part of your path, but if you're only staring at one spot then you might miss something important. Like the subtle nudge to take a left, or to take what this little detour gave you because it was right and needed, but now it's time to move on. It wasn't the final road.
Anytime you grasp for something like it’s the last piece of drift wood next to the titanic, guess what's happening? It can’t breathe. There’s this crazy rule of the universe that goes something like this: Want it, need it, love it, go after it, but don’t crush it. Don’t suck the life out of it with your own desperation. Don’t send stalker vibes out, my friends, cause they're doing the opposite of what you’re hoping for. In other words, we have to do something really, really hard. Want it, need it, love it, go after it, and be unattached to the outcome.
The word how typically comes to mind right about now. And for good reason. So here it is:
2. be present
Somewhere, somehow inside of you there's a voice saying that it isn't going to happen. I know this because otherwise, you wouldn't be choking the life out of your aspirations with fear laced, control freak clenched fingers. You think it hasn't worked out yet, so why will it now? And your answer is to clamp down hard without realizing that life is always growing in the ever roomy margins, never in the tiny space you're hoarding in your hands.
Whatever you want is somewhere out there, but it surely isn’t in front of your face at this very moment. A lot of other things are though. Like the steaming coffee mug to your right. The thrumming of rain against your office window. The friends texting that they want to see you on Friday even though you’ve been obsessing like a mad hatter. And hell, if you're so fixated on the ONE THING, then there's a pretty solid chance that you'll miss what might actually be the best thing.
All of this to say, let it breathe. Nothing can live without air not even your dreams.